Sunday, June 28, 2015

Perception->Judgemental ~Reality #MondayMusings

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Perceptions are bitter than reality. Most of the times, perceptions and reality  can be just contrast. But, why do we even have to peek into others lives or their situations and get judgemental about them? Not good judgment, either. What we see and what we process in mind about a person can be shocking versus the actual reality. I am no perfect in this regard. It’s an human instinct you see.I have been proved wrong a million and one times in the puzzle of perceptions. Not necessarily with different people, but with my own self.

 Here is a recent incident.

Just like any other day, a few days before I was taking my evening stroll in the park. There is a pavement around a serene pond around which one can walk. On a bench which overlooks the pond, a man in his 50’s sat casually. He was royally dressed in his black suit and accessories like a Rado watch, grand gold ring around every finger, his brand new Audi car parked close by . He appeared very grim and full of attitude. Stinking rich look in every angle.

"He must be such a happy man on earth with so much wealth around", I said to myself.

 He was intimately playing with his adorable Dachshund. It was irresistibly cute. But, I thought a man with so much attitude would not even spare a smile. He proved me wrong, instantly. As I crossed him, he shared a friendly smile. With Curiosity, I asked his dog’s name.The conversation thus began- from the topic of dogs to Indian culture.As he stroked his fingers gently on the dog’s back he said in his feeble voice "He is the only companion in life I am left with". I saw his tears welding up immediately. My legs did not move.

 Soon, the clouds of perception in my brain started clearing and got a picture of reality. He had divorced his wife just a month ago, and had dropped his son, to the airport to fly to India, the same day. His son had been lately addicted to drugs extensively. More painful was the fact that he had lost his parents to an terrific accident, the same year. So much pain and misery he was going through. But in my eyes, I had a notion that he should be such a happy man. He felt so lonely that he wanted someone to listen to him.In few minutes we had become friends.His wealth did not help  him a bit. All I could help was to sit by his side and say “Take care and hope for the best”.He was a different story altogether. Perception had tricked my mind. Into something untrue and unreal. I learnt a lesson that day.

Isn’t it unfair to  judge the right and wrong of a person when we are not sure about the reality own? I have seen people who pass comments at ladies who are modernly dressed. In their image, they are party animals who don’t abide by any religious laws and left to air. Whereas in reality, they could be more pious than the mocking people.Possible! Why judge based on looks or dresses they wear?

The worst part is- some people do it like game or habit, constantly commenting and passing judgements.

That person who was presumed to be rude by his looks and hulky body can be actually very sweet and damn friendly.

The lady whom in your image is very reserved can actually be outgoing and exuberant.

That little boy who is physically challenged is unbeatable in math. He can still make his parents proud. Definitely not a burden as one thinks. Getting into judgemental mode is very rude here.

The couple who are not found together often, could have actually been busy.Why will one think that they will file for a divorce soon :-P

The list never ends...

Judgement comes based on what we perceive, good or bad, which need not be a reality always.When Perception paves path to judgement, then tame your mind or stop right there.Going by notions can be harmful as well. Instead of passing judgments, it's better to mind our own life. If we can, we must try to understand the real story and help somebody in need. Being curious is OK, but not being judgemental.It hurts. Everybody would be fighting their set of battles. Help them if possible else do not trespass into their lives.What we see from inside holds more power than the simple reality that exists outside. Beware!

Reality is what we take to be true. 
What we take to be true is what we believe. 
What we believe is based upon our perceptions. 
What we perceive depends upon what we look for. 
What we look for depends upon what we think. 
What we think depends upon what we perceive. 
What we perceive determines what we believe. 
What we believe determines what we take to be true. 
What we take to be true is our reality.

Gary Zukav ~

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  1. Your thought about how our perception can trick us is so right. As they say, we will never know what goes on behind closed doors.

  2. Hey Francene. You said it right!.Perceptions tricks our minds.Thanks for dropping by:) You inspire me in every way:)

  3. You're so right, Rashmi. How wonderful that you took the time to probe further.
    Thank you for co-hosting #MondayMusings with me and for giving us so much food for thought.

  4. My Pleasure to be a part of #Mondaymusings, Corrine. Thank you so much:)

  5. Love it...i have a blog called perception and authenticity. ..i think you will love it.

    1. Hi Sacha. I often visit your place for the lovely posts you share about self-care and self-love. U rock man!

  6. Interesting read. When i hear the word perception, it reminds me of corporate world and the perception building game that we play. so crazy.

  7. I have nominated you for the 3 day quote challenge

    1. Hey Dee, that's so sweet of you. Thanks for the nomination. I would love to share my collection of quotes

  8. is it because we worry about other a lot we try to Judge them? Minding once business is the best thing on earth.

    nicely told reality good job rashmi :)

  9. This is a published story from a reporter. I will paraphrase. The reporter was waiting in line in front of a movie theater in Seattle to buy tickets. He noticed a couple in front of the line. They looked so poor this reporter thought how can they afford to buy 2 movie tickets. He goes nearer to them to take a good look at them. It was Bill Gates and his wife.

    1. Oh God! See how perception plays there. Thanks for sharing :)

    2. Oh God! See how perception plays there. Thanks for sharing :)

  10. A very relevant post. Sad to know about the tragic life of that friendly man. I agree with the points presented in this post. May be that is why hey say, 'world is nothing but a delusion' :)

  11. Rightly said Ankita:) Thanks for reading:)

  12. Rashmi this is so true. We spend so much time in judging people that we miss what is lying underneath - the truth.


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